~Titus 2:3~ The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things;
God is infinitely more concerned with us being godly women than with us doing anything for him. That is why his exhortation to godly character precedes his instruction to teach younger women.
The more mature women in the body are to be an example of:
Sanctified Behavior– “in behavior as becometh holiness”
- Stand Out from the Crowd! This church plant in Crete was in the midst of a pagan, idolatrous, wicked environment. The world we live in is no different. The world our girls are growing up in is a crooked and perverse place. The ladies that come in fresh from the world with no benefit of a godly upbringing carry the baggage of their carnal mindset, just like I did, and need to know what is expected of them as a new believer. They’re going to need women to look to. They are looking for women like this!
If you read my blog post titled “I’m a Fool!”, you know that when I got saved I was really foolish. I wanted to be wise and godly so the Lord taught me his word, and gave me a spiritual mentor, a living example to learn from. I got to see a sober, submissive, Spirit-filled, servant in action.
He didn’t do all that for me just for my sake or the sanity of my husband and children, he sanctified me (and continues to) so that I can be an example to other women. So that I can disciple and teach from a place of humility, understanding, experience, and God-given authority. And he wants to do the same for you!
Fast Fact: Holiness means uniqueness, set-apartness, or sanctified.
The aged women in the body should stand out from the immature, and the lost, they should be unique. They should make holiness look good for the younger women, as something they should aspire to. Psalm 29:2 says to “Give unto the LORD the glory due unto his name; worship the LORD in the beauty of holiness.” Holiness is beautiful to the Lord, and it should be to us as well.
Our holiness is dependent on our walk with Jesus, our worship of Jesus, putting in the words of Jesus, and following the ways of Jesus. Ladies should be able to see from our attitudes and actions that there is something very different about us, something they desperately want themselves. The good things listed here that the mature women are to teach the younger women, she needs to be living out in her own life. Not perfectly obviously, but making progress through her sin issues, always pursuing Christ-likeness. This is sanctified behavior.
The younger women should see that we don’t just read and teach these things, but we actually believe them enough to obey them! Proverbs 31:10 says “Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies.” Is it not the same in this world today? Virtuous women are so rare, and so hard to find. I think it’s time to change that!
- Stop the Carnality! At salvation the Lord starts conforming us to the image of Christ by pointing out areas in our lives that aren’t holy. He brings us from carnality to Christ-likeness the more we repent at his conviction of sin, and submit to walk in his ways instead of our own.
~1Peter 1:15-16~ But as he which hath called you is holy, so be ye holy in all manner of conversation; because it is written, Be ye holy; for I am holy.
Speaking Truth – “not false accusers”
- Stop Slandering! “Accuser” comes from the Greek word “diabolos” meaning Satan or traducer. This word is also used as “slanderer” and “devil” in the New Testament. Proverbs 10:18 says “He that hideth hatred with lying lips, and he that uttereth a slander, is a fool.”
Slanderers seek self-elevation and start division. A false accuser is a pawn of Satan who is being used to sow discord within the body, by spreading lies.
For a biblical illustration of this, read Numbers 12, and checkout my blog post on Miriam- A devilish diva!
The bible says that death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof (Proverbs 18:21). You have in your words, the ability to speak truth that brings life, or lies that bring death. Slander is deadly to relationships, and kills the unity within the body.
~Proverbs 31:26~ She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
We are to be the example of sanctified behavior, speaking truth, and of a:
Sober Mindset– “not given to much wine”
- Stay out of slavery to sin! “Given” means to be enslaved to, to be in bondage to, or become a servant of. Not given to much wine means not a slave to alcohol. This is the same instruction given to pastors in 1Timothy 3:3, Titus 1:7, and for deacons in 1Timothy 3:8. So the aged women are held to the same standard as the pastors and deacons of the church.
The bible forbids us from being drunk on alcohol. Ephesians 5:17-18 says “Wherefore be ye not unwise, but understanding what the will of the Lord is, and be not drunk with wine, wherein is excess; but be filled with the Spirit.”
While the bible specifically mentions being drunk on wine, we know that in our world today there are so many more things we can ingest to dull our senses and change our mood and mindset that ultimately bring us into bondage. We become enslaved to them, and we turn those things instead of to the Lord to help us in time of need. We as believers in the Lord Jesus Christ are not to be controlled by anything other than the Holy Spirit inside of us, and we are not to put anything in the place of God.
- Start thinking soberly!To change our actions, we must change our thinking. Romans 12:1-2 says “I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service. And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.” Our minds are renewed and we are transformed by putting the word of God in.
A sober mind is a controlled, disciplined, sound mind that filters everything through God’s word. The only way to have a sober mind is to fill our minds with divine truth. When trial or temptation comes, we need to cast down imaginations (2Corinthians 10:3-6), and think on things that are true (Philippians 4:8).
In that moment of decision, stop and ask yourself “what is true?” and apply God’s word to it. Walk in the Spirit and choose to believe God’s word over how you feel. Contrary to popular belief, you can help it, you do have a choice, and it is possible to be free of emotional instability and bondage to habitual sin.
Pray for the Lord’s help to remember truth, resist temptation, and remain triumphant. Be intentional to invest in your spiritual growth, be an example to other women by being sober, speaking truth, and having sanctified behavior. Give them something they will want to follow and learn from!
Biblical discipleship the way Jesus did it is intentional, personal, radical, and fruitful. Stay tuned for the next installment of the Invest Series for building block number 2-Building the Relationship!