Squash the Mom Guilt

Have you ever thought about all you should’ve done differently in raising your kids?

Or been visiting with a friend with well-behaved, well-dressed, or wildly successful children while yours look and act like they belong in the wild?

How about when you lose your temper, forget a parent-teacher conference, or can’t afford those new shoes they want so badly?

That feeling that washes over you… it’s mom guilt. 

That’s what I wrote about in this contributor post for Virtuous Mama Ministries! If you’re a mom- you need to read that post and follow their ministry, you’ll be glad you did!

Please share with your mom friends as well, so more women can find freedom from “mom guilt”!

Here’s the link to their website and my article “Squash the Mom Guilt”:


You can also find Virtuous Mama Ministries on several social media outlets, using the links at the bottom of their website.

From Stressed to Blessed-Part 1

In my previous post titled One Thing is Needful, I talked about Luke 10:38-42 and how Jesus responded to Martha’s attitude by commending Mary for choosing to do the one thing that is necessary- listening to and learning from Jesus.  Today I want to dig a little deeper into these four verses and give you 4 Signs of a Stressed-Out Servant, and then my next post will be on 4 Steps to Restore Spiritual Serenity, so you can go from stressed to blessed, and live as a Mary in a Martha world.

~Luke 10:38-42~Now it came to pass, as they went, that he entered into a certain village: and a certain woman named Martha received him into her house.  And she had a sister called Mary, which also sat at Jesus’ feet, and heard his word.  But Martha was cumbered about much serving, and came to him, and said, Lord, dost thou not care that my sister hath left me to serve alone? bid her therefore that she help me.  And Jesus answered and said unto her, Martha, Martha, thou art careful and troubled about many things: But one thing is needful: and Mary hath chosen that good part, which shall not be taken away from her.

4 Signs of a Stressed-Out Servant:

  1. A Stressed Out Servant is Cumbered ~ This is the only time in the entire Bible that this word appears. It means distracted in a mental sense of the word, or burdened, carrying a difficult and heavy load in a physical sense. Martha is blinded to the blessing and gets caught up in the busyness instead.
  2. A Stressed Out Servant ComplainsMartha basically comes to the Lord and accuses him of not caring about her and demands that he do something about it.  Now I know 1Peter 5:7 says that we should be –Casting all your care upon him for He careth for you, but the Lord also tells us in 1Thessalonians 5:18 In everything give thanks for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you. So, there has to be a balance in our prayers.  Martha doesn’t even say hello, or I’m so glad you came by, or I’m so honored to have the God of the universe in my home, she just lets him have it!
  3. A Stressed Out Servant Compares themselves with others ~ Sometimes we’re working our tails off and look around and see everybody else just sitting around and we wonder why we’re the ones doing all the work! We’re not serving with the right heart attitude and we know it’s not wise, but we still do it… why?  The answer is right here in verse 40.  It’s a little tiny two letter word-ME.  Martha is so wrapped up in her serving and all that she has to do, that all she can think about is herself.   Don’t be judging Martha now, we are all guilty of this!  Just like Martha, we can easily shift our focus from our Savior to our self and our sister, but we have to realize that comparison kills contentment, and repent of that!
  4. A Stressed Out Servant is Careful and Troubled about many things ~ Martha was anxious, worried, and troubled. She’s caught up in her emotions and her circumstances, with a lot on her mind. I can just imagine her furrowed brow, tense shoulders, and sharp tone.  I’ve had this demeanor at stressful times in my own life, how about you?

With all the busyness of life today, I know so many of us are operating as stressed-out servants.  We don’t have to stay there though.  God wants us to be able to minister as blessed daughters of the King, responding with grace, love, and joy, at peace in all circumstances of life.  Sound impossible?  It’s not, read my follow-up post “Stressed to Blessed” part 2 coming soon.

~Galatians 6:9~ And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.